BDSM is affection

It is rather an ultimate, and artistic form of love making.

Today I want to talk about this film – L’Empire des Sens, which is based on real event.

I wouldn’t call myself as a proper mistress yet, but I’ve been indulging myself into BDSM play for a while. What I realized during this journey is that, most of people are not really into ‘pain’ itself. Obviously, (almost) no one likes pain. Well there are the types who does want pain, but let’s talk about that later when given chance.

So on the ground that no one really enjoys pain, what would make you to let your partner to hurt you? What if you really love your partner, and want to make your partner happy at whatever cost? Maybe some pain, maybe some severe pain, maybe even your life itself?

What would it feel like to see your partner taking severe pain, whilst not liking pain, but taking it for your pleasure? Would it make you excited? Would it make you feel like you ‘own’ them? Let’s face it – we all want to ‘own’ our lovers, we just pretend to be civilized.

Sometimes watching a fine movie will teach you the things that you couldn’t figure out from real life. Would it feel orgasmic to chock your lover to death?


Last winter I attended to a BDSM event and wrote an article here. I quote myself.

I was especially touched by how ‘affectionate’ it was. It was truly about caring someone. The ‘tier’ was inducing and adjusting pain to meet the partner’s pleasure level. Delicate process of reading the tiee’s mind was there, and it was so caring. The ‘tiee’ on the other hand, was in a pure enjoyment by having the partner’s handling.


So in the spectrum of ’50 shades of grey’ which grey do you belong to? Would you take pain for your lover? Or would you induce pain for your lover?

What is certain here is that there are so many ways to enjoy art of BDSM. Instead of going in and out to a same place, BDSM has a whole variety of spectrum that you can choose from.

Vanilla is the most popular, and probably the most tasty flavor. But tonight I want some strawberry. I hope you keep on searching as well until you try all 31 of them.







I had chance to enjoy yet another different fetish! It’s called ‘trampling’ which is stepping over guy’s body. You can do this with bare foot, or with stiletto high heels! This cute young guy who has introduced me to this fun was actually a first-timer himself. So we agreed on doing bare foot only, and took it slow. I had practical concern about this, which is how to keep myself balanced onto somebody’s soft stomach but it was much easier than I thought.

As always, I had great fun playing. I kept him under my feet and made him stay that way. I started to press his abdomen with my one leg and then gradually transferred more and more weight onto that leg. He was breathing okay but then his breath got shorter and shorter as I give him more pressure on his stomach. Finally I put myself completely onto him and stood with my both feet. But he couldn’t handle that for too long.

It could be fun to keep practice this and make him get better at holding me on for longer. Can’t wait for my 2nd session of trampling.

Tokyo BDSM fun

I am visiting Tokyo for this weekend. The very reason I came here is to attend tonight’s bondage event. I’ve been interested in this for a while, and followed few mistresses and bondage perform artists on twitter. And eventually got my invitation to ‘girls only bondage event’.

Art of Shibari was so profound. Although what happened was just repeated tying and untying, the mental satisfaction, excitement, mutual affection and appreciation was beyond my imagination. I was especially touched by how ‘affectionate’ it was. BDSM is not about treating someone badly. It was truly about caring someone. The ‘tier’ was inducing and adjusting pain to meet the partner’s pleasure level. Delicate process of reading the tiee’s mind was there, and it was so caring. The ‘tiee’ on the other hand, was in a pure enjoyment by having the partner’s handling. All in all, the positive vibe that was running in the space was truly ‘orgasmic’. And I must say, it was the best orgasm I had! (And it lasts so long!)

Love truly comes in a ’50 shades of grey’ form. And all the different fetishes, no matter how different it may look, it’s really all about ‘love’. I am convinced today.

I took lots of awesome photos tonight but won’t be able to share it here. Other than this very neutral photo to just show you a small peep of it.




Men are in need of…


Now, here’s some audiovisual lesson.


Lots of women pleasers out there, has this thing in common.

Which is when woman seem to enjoy, when we make good noise, right at that moment you get all excited and start to doing it EXTRA hard! or fast.

Now, woman got to that point because YOU WERE DOING IT JUST RIGHT! And if you change it right then, IT KILLS EVERYTHING! Because it’s too rough, or fast, or hard!

So from now on if you hear a woman making pleasant noise, just do what you were doing, like, EXACTLY! No more speed, no more strength, no more of anything.

Because if I get disappointed, when I was almost about to cum, and then you ruin it, then I have to go through real hard time trying not to say “you! idiot!”

Or, some guys just have no clue at all and go rough from start to end.

As Jenna Marbles said, no matter what you think is gentle, is not gentle enough. Jenna said you should touch it like how you treat a puppy or a kitten, but I have a better idea. You should touch it like how you would touch your OPEN WOUND!

Are we clear on this or did I just make you grossed out?

Joke and Koala Bear

A koala bear and a hooker go back to her place and they get undressed. The koala bear goes down on the hooker for three hours straight. She has multiple orgasms! After three hours he stops, gets up and puts on his little koala clothes. The woman is hanging back huffing and puffing from exhaustion.

“Oh God, that was great! Now I need my money.” The koala bear just looks at her and shrugs.

Then the hooker says, “No, I need my money. I’m a hooker and this is how I make a living.”

The koala bear just looks at her and continues to put on his clothes. Then the hooker gets up and runs to the bookshelf, grabs a dictionary and thumbs through it to “hooker.” She hands it to the koala bear and it reads:

“HOOKER: person who has sex for money.”

Then the koala bear turns the page to “koala bear” and walks out the door. The hooker reads:

“KOALA BEAR: Furry Mammal That Eats Bushes and Leaves.”